As you will know, girls can be very uncomfortable about this. The reason is that, to a girl, giving out her 'phone number is generally a commitment - not just an opportunity. Ask for her work number. It’s a much less of a commitment. Ask for her work number by showing attention in what she does and telling her you might be a customer or have a friend who might be a customer. Talk to her and find out about a problem she has. Offer to resolve it for her. Get her number so you can ring her when you find the answer.

Find out her surname and roughly where she lives with questions that are obviously wrong like you are Jane Smith aren't you? And I have a friend who lives very near by you and make up these names if you have to. Girls don’t often turn down a chance to put you better. (Then look her up in the phone book.) Ask her friends. (They will not turn down a chance to play matchmaker) or - why not give her your phone number. A lot of girls turn down chat-ups but then regret it later when they have had a chance to think about it! Again, giving her your work number (but fortuitously give her your home number instead) can be a good idea because she will find it much less of a commitment ringing that.

Of course, there are always some desirable girls who do not respond to your chat and you need to do more. If you are really determined to have them you will have to move up a gear. Why do girls act hard to get, may be they are not interested. But it is quite likely they just expect you to work harder. This is common in the most desirable girls who date a lot - they do not want to seem too easy. Say a bit funny very funny. (Prepare it beforehand.) Criticise them. Usually this is not a good idea, but try it if you’ve reached a dead end .Try a feat - like dropping a tray of drinks etc. Admiring comment her like crazy!

You should always come close to her in a calm and composed manner. Don’t stutter and neither you should speak so softly that she has trouble understanding you. Don’t come on to her like a dog in heat; simply approach her with a lot of friendliness and warmth. When talking to her, try to make your conversation last for at least 3 to 5 minutes. Remember, you must try to conclude your conversation with getting her phone number. The best way to get her number is, I would like to take you out sometime, and can I have your phone number? One great trick you learnt is to ask for her e-mail address/ICQ number as well. This way, you involve that your hip because you’re connected to the net and be sure to always carry a pen and paper with you at all times, just for this purpose.