People lose their girlfriends for various reasons. There are even more ways to get an ex- girlfriend back. However, there are some questions you should ask yourself before endeavoring to get her back. Was the breakup really completely your fault, Is she still interested in you, Do you really need her back, or has she already moved on? Frankly speaking, is there any chance of her coming back? Unfortunately, general incompatibility is one likely reason for a breakup that is precipitated by a single major incident and making moves to get your ex-girlfriend back is a commitment unto itself; the relationship will probably change drastically after you truly go through the 'getting her back grind.' Generally, you should be prepared to take some criticism because, depending on whose fault the breakup was, there is every chance of a major argument and most important, beware that a trophy-hunting mentality generally will get you nowhere. You’ve to want her for who she is – not for the people to whom you can explain her off.

In the final analysis, if you think she’s worth trying to convince, then there are several ways of patching things up. Apology cards, or turning up at her home with a box of chocolates to apologize is a very acceptable approach and often yields impressive results. If something as simple as this does the trick, considers yourself lucky and you got off easy. If this does not work, and you still want to go through with trying to get your ex-girlfriend back, more comprehensive methods are required. One tasteful way to try to get an ex-girlfriend back is to call her and invite her for a lunch date every couple of months. During these lunch dates, don’t discuss anything heavy, or what came to pass since the last lunch date. The don'ts of fluff talk to get your ex-girlfriend back are: Don’t talk about any of your personal (family, money, work) problems. Do not talk about anything negative at all. Keep everything you talk about positive and upbeat. This completely turns women off and makes a bad impression. Do not drink at all or bound your drinking to a couple of drinks. Do not try to analyse her problems.

Do not bitch about your previous ex- girlfriends or ex-wives on how they mistreated you, dumped you, cheated on you, took you to the cleaners on child support, etc. Do not tell her you’re trying to get your ex girlfriend back. Do not pretend to be funny or humorous. If you are putting on an act, it will come across to her as false, just be friendly and smile. Do not focus on your health problems or ailments. Do not brag about yourself and your accomplishments and don’t tell her you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back. There are exceptions still, but try to be careful about them so be careful, focusing on her and her interests is a far safer route to take and at all costs, and you can get your ex girlfriend back, avoid these three themes: politics, conspiracy and religion theories. These are guaranteed to nuke your otherwise great interaction.